Trust & Happiness

Let’s take this time to focus our attention on the word TRUST. Who and why do we trust? To trust or not to trust…That IS the question. (I just had to throw that in there). Trusting another human being is like setting yourself up for failure.

The trust that we place in people can easily shatter since we all are naturally fickle and can change like the weather.

We want to believe that others will do as they say (or have said). We want to believe that the words being spoken to us are the real deal. We want to believe that the people we have chosen to allow into our lives have the same interest for our well being as we do theirs. There is a saying that i’m sure everyone has heard and it goes, “If you only trust yourself, no one can hurt you.”

TRUST YOURSELF. You can control the words coming out of your mouth. You can control the actions that you take. You can still choose to allow people into your life and care about them, just do not have expections that these people will offer anything of the same merit back to you.

Trusting yourself includes your thoughts (having your own mind), your actions (what you have control over), as well as your own judgment (preserving your dignity). Once you trust yourself, you will become the kind of person that you can be happy with for the rest of your life.

And if you can’t be happy with yourself, how do you expect anyone else to be happy with you?

Please note: I put my trust in the LORD. In HIS word, HE promises to never leave and HIS love is unconditional. (What more could I ask for?)

Green Reality

With a new reality show popping up every other day, it’s obvious that our society has an obsession with other people’s lives (or what we perceive other people’s lives to be).

When we see our friends/family/acquaintances get new houses, cars, or other big ticket items, we congratulate them and then turn around and plot out a way to get something bigger and better so that they can be awestruck with us.

“Why can’t I get a new job, take an exotic vacation, or even get some unexpected money.” We say to ourselves. Heaven forbid if we actually say those things out loud and someone hears us. Embarrassment of the green eyed monster that lives in us all (-to a certain extent.)

Why should I care that…

You just bought a brand new Lexus GS300?

You just bought a new designer pair of shoes?

You just got a 3 karat diamond ring?

My question to you is, “Are you counting down until you get paid again?” If the answer is, “YES”, then you are probably still as broke as me.

The point I am trying to make is a simple one. Don’t let other people’s “smoke and mirrors” get to you, causing you to feel inferior. Anyone who is showcasing what they have is trying to use that to make you feel less worthy (as if they are the only ones worthy). It doesn’t matter who that person is to you in your life.

Don’t get me wrong. There are times when we have achievements in our lives that we want to share with our loved ones. That’s great, fine and dandy, but not what I am referring to. We all know people who only come around when they are trying to show you what they have. We all know someone who will call us out of the blue to brag on their wonderful successes. The ones that could care less about what you have going on in your world just as long as you and everyone else know how GREAT life is going for them. They want to see the green eyed monster in you.

Why?

Well, you already know why; it makes them think they have power over you. And you give them power by allowing that side of you to come out (whether internal or external).

Know that your achievements –whether BIG or small – are just as significant and important.

Plus, who are we actually in competition with? The next man/woman doesn’t care if we have gone into debt trying to show that they aren’t flashier than us. Why should they when they are worried about trying to pay off that enormous debt they incurred by trying to make you feel like crap?

Ultimately, we should only be in competition with ourselves; to be better than we were the day before or even the year before. Only at that time can we can make our own lives a better reality where others will be green trying to mirror us.